I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be angry at X, whenever she tells me to do something without saying please.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to attach an incredible amount of
value to the word "please", and judge/perceive/define people who do
not use the word "please" as people without culture, as inferior, as
uneducated and unsophisticated, and within this I forgive myself that I have
accepted and allowed myself to feel superior to people who I perceive do not use
the word please in their communication with me when they are asking/telling me
to do something.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look down upon people who I
don't hear using the word please in communication with other people when
telling or asking them to do something.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to perceive/define myself as
having more culture, more manners, and therefore as superior because I use the
word please in communication with other people.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the word please in a
derogatory way, where I will pronounce it with a tone of superiority, which I have
learned from my aunt, and speak it in a way that shows that I think that I am a
better person than the one that I am directing the word at.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the word please in an
ordering manner, where I do not in fact ask the other person do to something,
but am ordering them to do it by speaking the word in a demanding manner and
tone, because I perceive that I have power over them and can afford to use the
word please in an ordering tone, so as to strengthen my superiority over them
by making myself still appear polite, which I define/perceive as a superior
state of being to being impolite, and to at the same time strengthen my
perceived power over them with being condescending and patronising.
When and as
I see myself wanting to use the word please in order to appear superior to the
person I am talking to, I stop and I breathe. I realise and understand that I
am participating in emotional manipulation, I'm trying to subdue the other
person, and since I wouldn't want to be treated that way, I commit myself to
stopping myself and changing myself in the moment by applying and living understanding,
gentleness and care.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak the word please
angrily, wherever I perceive that I can afford to do so without serious
consequences to the relationship with the person I am talking to, as a way of
manipulation, to manipulate them with fear, to make them afraid of my anger, so
that they would more readily comply with what I am asking of them, not
realising and understanding that I am participating in a power play where I am
trying to overpower the other person by speaking the word please in an angry
tone and manner.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to perceive/define speaking the
word please angrily as cool and superior, and perceive it to be a way to
strengthen my authority over people.
When and as
I see myself wanting to speak the word please angrily, I stop and I breathe. I
realise and understand that I have picked up this behaviour from my father,
whom I saw as an authority figure, and started emulating his way of speaking it
in order to establish my own authority over people. I also realise and understand
that I am with this manner of speaking the word please invoking negative
emotions within people about themselves and about myself, which makes it
impossible to have cooperation between us, therefore I commit myself to stop
and to check my starting point for speaking the word please, am I asking for
assistance or am I using it as a way of manipulating others, and to apply and
live understanding and cooperation as I align myself to what is best for all.
I commit
myself to be/become alert to the way I am speaking the word please, and to
remove all energetic ties to the word with which I exert superiority or
inferiority, and to learn to use it solely for asking for assistance when I
self-honestly need it.
I forgive
myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel inferior, whenever I use
the word please to ask for assistance a person that I in that moment
define/perceive as more than myself, and within that I forgive myself that I
have accepted and allowed myself to feel like I am begging them when I use the
word please to ask them for something, and within this I forgive myself that I
have accepted and allowed myself to feel fear, doubt, inferiority, insecurity, to
feel less than, and to be afraid of how they will respond, and to feel negative
and bad, whenever their response to my please is no.
When and as
I see myself feeling inferior, insecure and frightened of/about the answer
being no, whenever I use the word please, I stop and I breathe. I commit myself
to investigating why I am feeling this way towards the person I am talking to,
and aligning myself to become equal in my communication and expression towards
them by self-forgiving anything and everything that comes up in that moment.
